Important fasts about singles relationships and decision making
By Harnie Gold
Hello valued friend, Is Harnie Gold, here again, today glad to share with you the reply I gave to one of my Facebook group users who have previous ask me an important question concerning her relationship
She was a promising young girl and the conversation between me and her took place via the Facebook platform so I felt I should share my answer to here with you all here on Afri Notes
The reality of being in love is that. Love can make you, love can overtake anyone just as alcohol intoxicates.
It can make you do things you will never believe after the hang-over period. So, let’s allow this short and simple wisdom to guide us in making decisions in our relationships.
❤️Love is sweet but there are times you have to keep love aside and think about how some very vital decision(s) you make in a relationship will affect your future.
Don’t be willing to please a man/woman who cannot put your well-being and future into consideration before making unrealistic demand
Love no dey finish o.
Being in a relationship, ”not in marriage” is like a barrack, in that case, you are the barrack – so is important that you understand at this stage of a love relationship that people will always admire you, so you need to understandings the fact that soldier comes soldier go, but barrack will always remain
So when you are in a love relationship, use your head, apply things that will build you up, things that will be promising to your better feature
You lover, so if he/she is not that promising, then let him/her go, if you are already deep in love, give yourself the time you will heal.
Remember, your future is yours don’t trade it for anything❤️ not for love and be a bit selfish in loving your self the more
The above applies to relationship datings as dating is completely different from marriage
Love Dating Relationship and Marriage
Dating is different from marriage. A husband and a wife become one while a man and a woman dating, are two individuals not yet couples
You cannot sacrifice important opportunities in your life for a man/woman whose place is not guaranteed.
You might be so in love today and then, tomorrow you find yourself out of love and I tell you, one of the things you will regret the most is life-changing and impacting opportunities you missed because of that relationship.
I once had the story of a guy who had an opportunity to study abroad but rejected it because of a girl he was dating. Guess what, the relationship did not lead to marriage, in fact, the girl left him for another guy. The incident left the guy shattered and depressed
Be wise when it comes to deciding whether to invest in yourself or your partner. Investing in your partner is not bad even if the relationship does not lead to marriage.
But, It is not wise investing so much time and every single penny you get in your partner without investing in yourself even if that relationship leads to marriage.
Invest in yourself, develop your capacity, you will need it both now in your relationship and later in a marriage. It is not good you invest so much in your partner while you invest nothing in yourself trust me
It will not be healthy for your relationship. If the gap between you two is much, especially in terms of finance, mental capacity, and education, one party may begin to see the other as not good enough for him/her.
So, as much as you invest in your partner, also invest in yourself, put yourself first, in all” love yourself the more, when you love your self more, then the need for you to reposition your self and win your lover’s heart” will bring more winning to you.
Hopes this helps, From your Harnie Gold, Reporting from AfriNOTES, what to have your say on this ”Important fasts about singles relationships and decision making” kindly drop your comment using the comment box. with waves of thanks ”stay loved”