By Usman Salami
Staying happy in marriage: Here Are 6 Simples Things To Do. Because we are all products of a man and a woman coming together in marriage in a blessed union
Where two people are called one, it becomes necessary for us to discuss on staying happy in marriage, reasons, why you should make your union a fun, felt
First: It will interest you to know that marriage is one thing many people have a misconception about over the years. It becomes harder to comprehend how happy a man and woman ought to be
In marriage, these days with the high rate of failed marriages, in other words staying happy in marriage is 100% possible when you in question and your partner are ready to take responsibility and make your union a happy one
To some persons, marriage is a poverty alleviation scheme, to some others, it is their final destination or sexual gratifying scheme.
It cannot be overemphasized that having such thoughts or wrong ideas about marriage is highly detrimental. So, it is advisable to read books or to educate oneself with marriage podcasts or other means so as to get the right idea before venturing into this life-long contract.
So Here Are Our 6 tips you can put to practice to stay happy in marriage, this not being only staying happy in marriage, enjoying your union with your partner, but also being content in your marriage
- 1: Work On Your Expectations In Marriage
- 2: Appreciate your Partner Everyday
- 3: Tolerate Your Partner’s Excesses
- 4: Be Playful
- 5: Forgive Your Partner Easily
- and lastly
- 6: Being Happy In Marriages Requires peaceful heart and patience
So let start by heightening the 6 simples things you should do to staying happy in marriage starting with our list tips number one
1: Work On Your Expectations In Marriage
Marriage is a union where both couples grow together as the years go by before most couple goes into marriage they do have one or two expectations, dreams and needs
These expectations, dreams, and needs should not be kept as a secret in your heart of your soul, not to be left in your hands only, it’s advisable you share your dreams, expectations, and needs long before you get married to your partners
Also, have the ability to listen to what your partner has to say or contribute in line with your expectations, dreams, and needs, don’t also be surprised seeing your partner sharing his or her own expectations, dreams, and needs with you.
Now to be happy thereafter, is expected that both of you should share each other expectation, listen and come to conclusion on how best you both will put things into practice by working on your expectations, dreams, and needs, and watch how things will be much easy for both of you
Most young people also think it is a fairy tale and always happily ever after. Of course, everyone hopes to get that desired peace and rest of mind in their marriage which may require lowering one’s expectations a bit for the happiness of the union will put you on the advantageous side.
One of the reasons why many marriages are breaking is because the parties involved are faced with what they never imagined or see coming.
Their expectations of marriage are not the same as the scenes they watch in a movie, observer from other people marriage or being told by friends and families, which thereby dashing their fantasies of an always-blissful coexistence.
Due to this, some people refuse to invest in such union since they think it is way below what they had dreamed of, not considering that things don’t always go as they had planned or expected, and it’s okay.
2: Appreciate your Partner Everyday
There is another thing couples do in a marriage that kills that initial sweetness they shared with their partners before marriage; they tend to appreciate their partners less for reasons not easily fetched.
Well, it could be that they think that they’ve attained their highest height in life (marriage) and so they don’t have to behave the way they used to before marriage, to them, it’s of no use.
But what they missed is that they have to do twice the things they did (within the scope of rightful conduct) before marriage. Anything less might see their marriage struggling to survive.
Appreciating your partner is not the same as complimenting them even though they might seem closely related. As a partner, you should take out time to observe when your partner is going out of their way to please you or make you comfortable, whether financially or otherwise, and promptly appreciate them at every slight chance you get;
It makes them know you are aware of their sacrifices and makes them want to do more. Besides, it makes them feel good about themselves, and you know what that means?
That they’d go to bed smiling to the ceiling because they have a partner who appreciates their efforts, no matter how small it may seem, hence they live their lives happily and would do anything to keep this marriage that makes them happy.
3: Tolerate Your Partner’s Excesses
Normally, we are bound to have problems with ourselves as humans sometimes, especially when we are in contact with people who keep getting on nerves and we tend to react promptly, but in marriage, we’d rather use a different approach to addressing this problem.
Before marriage, some persons might not exhibit certain behaviors, so their partners have no idea they had such character before marriage.
Some persons might not know how to handle it and before you know it, a once sweet union will become a shadow of its former self.
Marriage is a lifetime contract that originally isn’t supposed to be broken, unless in cases of divorce which is not exactly a thing anyone would advise, nor which for.
But the sooner we realize that we’d be spending the rest of our lives with our chosen partners, the better we start to tolerate their excesses.
Partners need to tolerate each other to ensure peaceful coexistence. Of course, it might be difficult, but if you put your mind to it, you’ll be surprised how much you can take while your partner puts themselves together and become a better person.
4: Be Playful
Some people naturally do not have a sense of humor, and this, I would say, rob them of happiness sometimes. You don’t exactly have to run around the house with your partner like kids (But if you can, why not?).
What I mean in essence is that a little fun would not hurt and it’d do well to keep your marriage refreshed and energized all the time.
Imagine a situation where one of you is down and the other brings up a silly joke and the sad one gets lifted and burst with laughter, at that moment, whatever had been making them feel sad or down initially would leap away.
You don’t have to be a comedian to be humorous, but even a failed attempt at humor could be fun too right? That’s it, just be silly in a kind of way that is not offensive and makes your partner laugh.
It would be hard to have issues with your partner if you maintain a playful relationship with them. Science has it that laughter boosts your immune system and diminishes pain, and generally keeps you healthy. A healthy marriage is staying happy in marriage.
5: Forgive Your Partner Easily:
Whether there are kids involved in a marriage or not, it is advised that you forgive easily in your marriage in order to maintain its allure.
Aside from leaving you with great peace of mind and mentally easing your stress, your marriage tends to be intact. Forgiving your partner isn’t that you are weak, it means you’re strong to overlook their shortcomings and that you have a greater plan for your marriage.
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It’s one thing to forgive, it’s another thing to forget; if you can forget, please do, and if you can’t, do not let it bother you, do not keep it at heart and you’ll be fine.
The new generation of young people are overly misinformed about marriage, thus they have very little patience to deal with issues they never expected.
If you don’t deal with problems, you’ll never attain growth. With every problem you solve in life, you are one notch better than you used to be.
Your IQ expands and it makes you better off. Your expectations of marriage should lessen a bit as it is not always a forever blissful union for everyone.
If we can live with neighbors, have problems with them, settle it and move on, this includes having a problem with friends, school classmate, what more with having issues with our partner and forgiving and forgetting
To forgive and forget, it is required that will due away with pride, marriage is one blissful union we must do our best to put pride aside, you don’t shade pride in your wife, husband, or kid, you shade love, respect, appreciation, and loyalty to them all
So if we can forgive others, then why do we think marriage would be any different or more difficult to forgive our partner? Especially when we live in the same entity with our partners? and lastly
6: Being Happy In Marriages Requires peaceful heart and patience
A little patience on your side as a man, a woman, as one union called marriage will bring you much happiness in marriage than gold
Don’t know if you have heard the saying, patience is a virtue, yes patience is more valued than gold, marriage activities are one thing you don’t rush on, some event may require you being peaceful and patience
So is best you learn the act of having a peaceful heart and having patience toward your partner and lastly putting the above tips into practice, might just be all you need to set your marriage on the right path, be joyful, enjoy your union by staying happy in marriage
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Usman Salami reporting from AfriNOTES Africa multipurpose portal for Africa global tiers. stay safe and stay happy