Saturdays are for weddings they say, but the weddings would be a mere party if the purpose were not fulfilled, come to talk of t, wedding s just a single day, while marriage s designed for a lifetime
Though people of today’s world now value that single day’s wedding activity more than what comes after the wedding, it seems like a misplaced priority
That people now value the level of the glamour of weddings more than the life journey of the couples ahead.
This has birthed so many strained wedding preparations, disgruntled grooms, and a broken home after the weddings due to a lack of finance to pilot the home affairs afterward.
This new trend of lavish and elaborate weddings could be said to have been inspired by the lifestyle of celebrities and very influential people in society
Which are seen on various social media platforms across the internet and TV. This makes the younger generations rush into selecting a life partner because they care more about the glamour, how the wedding day will be
That takes us to the topic, ‘Things to Look Out for When Choosing a Life Partner.
This is a very important step in your journey to marriage; in fact, it is the most important, more important that you take your time to study, and choose your life partner wisely.
So will going to highlight some important factors you need to look out for before choosing a life partner. Starting with knowing your partner ( who is your partner) strive to know your partner
Know Your Partner:
This sounds generic. Some people might want to ask: “What part of my partner am I supposed to know?”
This is not difficult, it just means that you should take the time to know the kind of person your partner is. You should be able to guess what he or she would say in any given circumstance, this would give you the leverage to conduct yourself by his way of doing things.
This does not insinuate that if your partner is wrong in certain circumstances, you should not correct him or her, it simply means that you and your partner can live together for a long time when you understand them better.
Family of Your Prospective Partner:
In the African setting, the need for spouses to be familiar and know each other’s family cannot be over-emphasized. This is to ensure that both parents acknowledge the union and bring forth their blessings for a blissful marriage.
In addition, you get to know the lineage of your potential partner before you get married.
Some people come from families or tribes where certain things are prohibited, if you do not familiarize yourself with the family of your partner, you may not know when cultural values they hold dear and this may lead to crossing some red lines.
Besides, marrying from a good family is likely to bring you good fortunes as against marrying from families that are dealing with one ancestral problem or the other.
Things have changed, and Africa has evolved from the days where couples get married without knowing what genetic properties each of them carries.
Knowing the genotype of your partner is essential when considering marriage because this tells you whether they are compatible or not, most partners, families, religious bodies have made knowing your partner’s genotype mandatory.
Types of genotype are AA, AS, and SS. The combination of AA and AS is good but the combination of SS and AS is not good as they have the probability of giving birth to at least one sicklier, the combination of SS and SS is the worst and they are mostly going to give birth to SS offspring. SS is Sickle Cell.
In this digital era, no matter how you love someone, you need to be sure that he or she has a formal education before considering marriage.
This does not mean that people who are not formally educated are not desirable; it means that they might have limited opportunities in this competitive world where even graduates are still jostling for a better life.
This factor is also very important because a partner who has planned is likely to become more successful than one who doesn’t have any plans whatsoever.
A goal-driven man or woman, however, does not neglect everyone else and is hell-bent on achieving his or her goals, that he or she is one who still has time for his potential partner and still accords everyone’s respect whilst chasing his or her dreams legally
You don’t want a situation where your partner becomes a liability at home and does not have any push, in today world, is applicable that all partner, in respective of gender should have goals and best have something doing to support the family
It is that zeal and push that keeps him or her on their toes and it is only a matter of time before they transcend the family to the next level.
When your potential partner has the fear of God, he or she is likely to be a good person. To have the fear of God is not to necessarily be the overly religious type
To have the fear of God is to abide by the word and things of God, and to do only good and right things at all times regardless of whether someone is watching or not
Even the bible says the FEAR OF GOD is the beginning of wisdom so who so ever have the fear of God is wise, having a partner who fears good is virtual
A life partner who does not have regard for the things of God will most likely not have regards for you or anyone, and a marriage that is headed for destruction begins from there.
Some people do not consider this factor one to look out for, but it is just as important as every other factor up there. Personal hygiene is the gateway to good health or bad one.
You need to be sure that your prospective life partner puts into practice things that preserve their health. This could be anything as little as keeping their nails neat or taking their baths daily, and as much as going to see health experts for health tips and guidelines and most keeping her home environment clean
When your partner spends money on impulse or does not follow any rules of finance, it puts you and the future kids at risk because chances are that he or she would carry that behavior into marriage.
Some people say that this kind of person can be remolded into changed people, but it is difficult to start teaching a full-blown adult what to do and what not to do
While this may work out, it would require a whole lot of effort and dedication to bring that person out of that behavior, but while this effort to change them lasts, damages are being made all along
So it is safer to find someone who already knows what he or she should do with finance, money talk is an important part of marriage, is one area you should never joke with if your partner to be is very poor in managing his or her finances, that is poor financial budgeting can lead to the financial crisis, so choose your life partner wisely by considering his or her Financial Intelligence
Choosing a life partner is not something to rush into and should not be influenced by anything, including peer pressure, parents, the fact that one is not getting younger any more, please take your time in making life choices
From all of us AfriNOTES, we do wish you a happy search in finding that special person and know this! You have all the time to figure out what kind of partner you want, so do so with utmost care.
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